Female Friendship Coach & Educator

Because mentally I am still here. 🎧: Please drop the 90s/00s jams you’re still listening to so I can add them to my playlist!

Because mentally I am still here. 🎧: Please drop the 90s/00s jams you’re still listening to so I can add them to my playlist!

[Cue comments from people who only watched the first 6 seconds] Here’s how I protect my peace: I engage. I do what I can to make tangible impact. THAT is how I protect my peace, because seeing change and impact in real time gives me PEACE OF MIND. ———— I’ve always thought it was odd that the main association we make for “protecting our peace” looks like disengagement. While some situations call for exactly that, there are other situations in which getting more active is a way of protecting your peace (sometimes for the short-term, always for the long-term). And don’t get me wrong: I am also turning off socials and going to the zoo with my kids and talking about the latest celebrity gossip. That kind of recharge allows me to have the fuel to keep fighting the good fight But being ignorant about key current events stresses me, but getting informed protects my peace. Being scared because I feel helpless stresses me, so doing something real protects my peace. Knowing the trajectory of my kids' future might be determined by people who are more active than me but less good-willed ticks me off, but combatting their efforts by improving my kids' literacy, empathy, and conviction helps me to protect my peace. I'm just sayin'. ---------------------------- Resources mention: Know your rights against ICE: @chirla_org @immigrationlawyers_ @nilc Contact your reps (literally so easy): @5calls Church (Tampa): @greenhousetpa

[Cue comments from people who only watched the first 6 seconds] Here’s how I protect my peace: I engage. I do what I can to make tangible impact. THAT is how I protect my peace, because seeing change and impact in real time gives me PEACE OF MIND. ———— I’ve always thought it was odd that the main association we make for “protecting our peace” looks like disengagement. While some situations call for exactly that, there are other situations in which getting more active is a way of protecting your peace (sometimes for the short-term, always for the long-term). And don’t get me wrong: I am also turning off socials and going to the zoo with my kids and talking about the latest celebrity gossip. That kind of recharge allows me to have the fuel to keep fighting the good fight But being ignorant about key current events stresses me, but getting informed protects my peace. Being scared because I feel helpless stresses me, so doing something real protects my peace. Knowing the trajectory of my kids' future might be determined by people who are more active than me but less good-willed ticks me off, but combatting their efforts by improving my kids' literacy, empathy, and conviction helps me to protect my peace. I'm just sayin'. ---------------------------- Resources mention: Know your rights against ICE: @chirla_org @immigrationlawyers_ @nilc Contact your reps (literally so easy): @5calls Church (Tampa): @greenhousetpa

Conversation for when you feel like you don’t have anything interesting (“tea”, wow-worthy updates, etc) to add to the group chat —- Oh! And if you comment -scripts- I’ll send you a conversation guide with: -research -scripts -videos -strategies ... to help you start, carry, and close conversations with more confidence and finesse. If you feel like you perpetually struggle with this kind of thing, I promise you this will help. Truly. Good luck!

Conversation for when you feel like you don’t have anything interesting (“tea”, wow-worthy updates, etc) to add to the group chat —- Oh! And if you comment -scripts- I’ll send you a conversation guide with: -research -scripts -videos -strategies ... to help you start, carry, and close conversations with more confidence and finesse. If you feel like you perpetually struggle with this kind of thing, I promise you this will help. Truly. Good luck!

What's the difference between chemistry, closeness, and platonic intimacy? Being able to differentiate between these three concepts can help you: • discern substantive friendships • increase self-awareness around your comfort level around true intimacy in your friendships • move friendships into the next level establish boundaries In my group coaching program Friendship Elevated, I spend 4 months with women who are serious about having deep friendships in 2026, and this particular lesson is really powerful! I crafted a few questions to help you see the ways these concepts are playing a role in your PERSONAL friendships right now. Comment CHEMISTRY and I'll send you my "Chemistry Quick Guide" to walk you through it (aaaaand you'll get more details for my group coaching program-- Friday's the last day to join!). In the meantime, cheers to better female friendships in 2026!

What's the difference between chemistry, closeness, and platonic intimacy? Being able to differentiate between these three concepts can help you: • discern substantive friendships • increase self-awareness around your comfort level around true intimacy in your friendships • move friendships into the next level establish boundaries In my group coaching program Friendship Elevated, I spend 4 months with women who are serious about having deep friendships in 2026, and this particular lesson is really powerful! I crafted a few questions to help you see the ways these concepts are playing a role in your PERSONAL friendships right now. Comment CHEMISTRY and I'll send you my "Chemistry Quick Guide" to walk you through it (aaaaand you'll get more details for my group coaching program-- Friday's the last day to join!). In the meantime, cheers to better female friendships in 2026!

NEW SERIES: “Unpopular friendship opinions” (1/4) MAJOR caveat in the caption: If you are the friend who’s considered a “bad texter,” try to really consider the MEANING friends assign to your text habits/ style. Even though it makes sense that you’d want to lean into the communication mode that feels most comfortable and natural, it doesn’t mean that it won’t cause a real strain on your friendships– and you don’t want that! Some things “bad” texters can do: 1. Let new friends know upfront: “I’m not really quick on text but you can call me any time!” 2. Share your POV: Sometimes if friends had a picture of YOUR text experience (overwhelm, forgetfulness, lifestyle), it creates understanding and helps them to be more compassionate and flexible. Maybe they still get frustrated, but at least it helps to depersonalize it. 3. Make one small, manageable change (and explicitly state the effort so friends recognize this as a gesture of care for the relationship). Maybe you offer to give “thumbs up” when messages come through but don’t reply fully until you have the time. LISTEN: I just want to make room for people who prefer voice notes, hangouts, (emails?), or phone calls, and I want to challenge the ways our culture has adopted texting as the default. I just think it’s interesting. If you have people in your life that you know are feeling neglected or frustrated with your habits and it’s causing actual relational strain, I DO believe you owe them (close friends especially!) some kind of explanation or effort to find common ground and to manage expectations. Bottom line: Relationship maintenance is a skill and a requirement for healthy connections. BUT I want to make room for the various ways people choose to maintain (choosing NOT to maintain a relationship, however, is a whole other issue.) ——- Inspired by a convo I had in L.A. over dinner with @miriam_tinny recently. If this topic is intriguing to you, I strongly recommend reading the book “Digital Body Language” by @ericadhawan_ . It’s one of those books that I recommend about 100 times a year.

NEW SERIES: “Unpopular friendship opinions” (1/4) MAJOR caveat in the caption: If you are the friend who’s considered a “bad texter,” try to really consider the MEANING friends assign to your text habits/ style. Even though it makes sense that you’d want to lean into the communication mode that feels most comfortable and natural, it doesn’t mean that it won’t cause a real strain on your friendships– and you don’t want that! Some things “bad” texters can do: 1. Let new friends know upfront: “I’m not really quick on text but you can call me any time!” 2. Share your POV: Sometimes if friends had a picture of YOUR text experience (overwhelm, forgetfulness, lifestyle), it creates understanding and helps them to be more compassionate and flexible. Maybe they still get frustrated, but at least it helps to depersonalize it. 3. Make one small, manageable change (and explicitly state the effort so friends recognize this as a gesture of care for the relationship). Maybe you offer to give “thumbs up” when messages come through but don’t reply fully until you have the time. LISTEN: I just want to make room for people who prefer voice notes, hangouts, (emails?), or phone calls, and I want to challenge the ways our culture has adopted texting as the default. I just think it’s interesting. If you have people in your life that you know are feeling neglected or frustrated with your habits and it’s causing actual relational strain, I DO believe you owe them (close friends especially!) some kind of explanation or effort to find common ground and to manage expectations. Bottom line: Relationship maintenance is a skill and a requirement for healthy connections. BUT I want to make room for the various ways people choose to maintain (choosing NOT to maintain a relationship, however, is a whole other issue.) ——- Inspired by a convo I had in L.A. over dinner with @miriam_tinny recently. If this topic is intriguing to you, I strongly recommend reading the book “Digital Body Language” by @ericadhawan_ . It’s one of those books that I recommend about 100 times a year.

Tomorrow on 🎬 #PRETTYSMART with @daniellerobay: Fighting For Friendships with Friendship Coach @daniellebayardjackson 💡💋: @beprettysmart Hear the 2 QUESTIONS every friend wants answered + learn what it means to be a good friend as an adult + how to handle conflict..healthily! •Grab Danielle's book Fighting for Our Friendships: The Science and Art of Conflict and Connection in Women’s Relationships (it’s PHENOMENAL) 📚

Tomorrow on 🎬 #PRETTYSMART with @daniellerobay: Fighting For Friendships with Friendship Coach @daniellebayardjackson 💡💋: @beprettysmart Hear the 2 QUESTIONS every friend wants answered + learn what it means to be a good friend as an adult + how to handle conflict..healthily! •Grab Danielle's book Fighting for Our Friendships: The Science and Art of Conflict and Connection in Women’s Relationships (it’s PHENOMENAL) 📚

2026 TREND PREDICTIONS: Friendships + Social Gatherings (You heard it here first!) Because if the work I do, I’m often in the front line of nothing tends in the friendship and connection space. Then it’s confirmed every time: -clients whisper their fears during a session - journalists message me asking for research-based insights for a story they’re working on - I’m notified of fresh research by colleagues who have bts connections - women in leadership (employers, school principals, HR directors) tell me all about the private issues they’re having with their members/ employees I’m synthesizing this into a list of things I believe I’m seeing on the horizon in hopes that it sparks conversation, healthy behaviors, thoughtful questions among those who follow me in this space. In this video, I shared three…. BUT I HAVE MORE. Comment “newsletter” to get my full prediction list when it drops this Friday! 👀

2026 TREND PREDICTIONS: Friendships + Social Gatherings (You heard it here first!) Because if the work I do, I’m often in the front line of nothing tends in the friendship and connection space. Then it’s confirmed every time: -clients whisper their fears during a session - journalists message me asking for research-based insights for a story they’re working on - I’m notified of fresh research by colleagues who have bts connections - women in leadership (employers, school principals, HR directors) tell me all about the private issues they’re having with their members/ employees I’m synthesizing this into a list of things I believe I’m seeing on the horizon in hopes that it sparks conversation, healthy behaviors, thoughtful questions among those who follow me in this space. In this video, I shared three…. BUT I HAVE MORE. Comment “newsletter” to get my full prediction list when it drops this Friday! 👀

Your besties would never. I’m just sayin’.

Your besties would never. I’m just sayin’.

Wait, WHY aren’t there reality shows about FRIENDSHIP 👀 If you’ve ever had this thought, I’m sharing my PERSONAL experiences with production companies that have reached out to me about my interest hosting a reality show… And the (sad?) themes I noticed in the concepts they kept pitching to me. To be clear, I’m not saying these show ideas wouldn’t be entertaining or that they wouldn’t teach an important lesson, but they’re not MY personal style. I believe that an uplifting, “personal transformation” type of show that centers around friendship would be a hit. But maybe I’m wrong…???

Wait, WHY aren’t there reality shows about FRIENDSHIP 👀 If you’ve ever had this thought, I’m sharing my PERSONAL experiences with production companies that have reached out to me about my interest hosting a reality show… And the (sad?) themes I noticed in the concepts they kept pitching to me. To be clear, I’m not saying these show ideas wouldn’t be entertaining or that they wouldn’t teach an important lesson, but they’re not MY personal style. I believe that an uplifting, “personal transformation” type of show that centers around friendship would be a hit. But maybe I’m wrong…???

Learning Spanish and bass guitar at 38 😬 Why? Because I’ve spent the last ten years telling myself it’s too late. But if I started ten years ago, I’d probably be playing the bass professionally in somebody’s Spanish band by now! In all seriousness: One piece of advice I’m often repeating to clients is that it’s literally never too late to begin setting up their FUTURE SELVES with the skills, knowledge, and relationships that they’ll need. But I’ve felt that way about Spanish and the bass guitar for so long, convinced that my fully formed adult brain couldn’t possibly learn such intricate skills. But I’m gonna try. WHY THIS FEELS VULNERABLE For the past several years, I have used social media as an educator. I am always teaching, sharing knowledge to equip and empower others. But I have never shown up as a student, showcasing the process of learning in real time. But as a high-achieving woman, I am working to get comfortable being a beginner again (shout out to my friend @livforrest_ for mentioning this in one of our life chats! ),so I thought I would start with two things that I’ve been on my heart the most! And shout-out to my new bass teacher, @musiclessonswithross !

Learning Spanish and bass guitar at 38 😬 Why? Because I’ve spent the last ten years telling myself it’s too late. But if I started ten years ago, I’d probably be playing the bass professionally in somebody’s Spanish band by now! In all seriousness: One piece of advice I’m often repeating to clients is that it’s literally never too late to begin setting up their FUTURE SELVES with the skills, knowledge, and relationships that they’ll need. But I’ve felt that way about Spanish and the bass guitar for so long, convinced that my fully formed adult brain couldn’t possibly learn such intricate skills. But I’m gonna try. WHY THIS FEELS VULNERABLE For the past several years, I have used social media as an educator. I am always teaching, sharing knowledge to equip and empower others. But I have never shown up as a student, showcasing the process of learning in real time. But as a high-achieving woman, I am working to get comfortable being a beginner again (shout out to my friend @livforrest_ for mentioning this in one of our life chats! ),so I thought I would start with two things that I’ve been on my heart the most! And shout-out to my new bass teacher, @musiclessonswithross !